all the fish in the sea...
- Lynzee Colclasure
- Feb 25, 2015
- 2 min read
I read this article this morning and the timing was too ironic to not share. As you know, my sister was in town visiting this past weekend and this was a topic of more than one conversation. Let me give a bit more background before I begin…
I come from a long lineage of lasting love. My parents have known each other since they were like 6, high school sweet hearts, never been with anyone else, madly in love. Two kids later… My sister and her husband have been together since their first year in college, house in the burbs with one beautiful daughter and I’m certain a growing family. This is just immediate… grandparents had that same kind of love that I pray still exists. And then there’s me… the black sheep, nomad. 30 and single.
During my sister’s visit we talked about love and life and happenings…and my aspirations of endless and indefinite travel left my sister puzzled; “how will you meet someone and settle like that?” she asked. I unequivocally began explaining that I am not, nor have I been, opposed to love. In fact, I want it, but that we live in a time where people cannot concentrate on just one person, there are too many “possibilities and options” (it sickens me to write that, referring to people, but it’s true), and I cannot keep myself in one place with the hopes it will happen. I need to continue striving for my own happiness and the things I want to do in life. I then asked her; “if you were 30 and single, with no real responsibilities or things holding you somewhere, what would you do?” She really didn’t know how to reply to this, as it’s so farfetched from the life she leads.
To explain how dating is, today, to a happily married woman who has really never “dated” before is a pointless task. My emphasis was more directed towards clarifying that not having a partner is not deflecting from me living happily. Dating is daunting, to say the least, and I don’t know that technology will permit an easier course in our (near or far) future. I do know that I keep my morals, values and self-worth at the forefront of everything I do and I will not let the dating sea sink any of that… and my belief in love. I still have that :)
Whether you’re in the dating rat race or not, this is a good read.
“We want phone calls. We want to see a face we love absent of the blue dim of a phone screen. We want slowness. We want simplicity. We want a life that does not need the validation of likes, favorites, comments, upvotes. We may not know yet that we want this, but we do. We want connection, true connection. We want a love that builds, not a love that gets discarded for the next hit. We want to come home to people. We want to lay down our heads at the end of our lives and know we lived well, we lived the fuck out of our lives. This is what we want even if we don’t know it yet.”
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